Use discipline, not punishment

The following items are symptoms that may indicate abuse. In themselves they do not signify abuse, but they should raise concern:
1. Your partner has a history of abuse.
2. You tend to give more than you receive in the relationship; you perceive that your relationship is not reciprocal.

The following points are useful to keep in mind for dealing with all types of conflict, from mild differences of opinion up to serious tensions.

* Try to see all conflict as an opportunity for growth.

Conflict is natural in this world. Different opinions, tensions and even more serious conflict can lead to positive change.